Saturday, December 01, 2007

Postponing the inevitable

A few weeks ago, I made a decision that relieved a lot of stress and helped me feel more excited about life in general and the Christmas season specifically: we're going to wait until after the holidays are over to potty train Miriam.

I sat down and thought about it and realized that all the pressure I was feeling to potty train Miriam was external: she turned 2 in September, so time is "running out"; a few of my friends' kids were trained before then; comments from (well meaning?) relatives, etc.

All this night not have been a big deal except that Miriam has zero interest in the potty and actually has a rather strong aversion to it. Also, I am basically without a husband (to help do the job) until December 12th (the day after his oral examinations), and I am just barely feeling better from having my tonsils removed.

Are these excuses? Certainly. But they are valid ones nonetheless.

It seems like we're always having to schedule these important milestones around other life events. First, there was her birth: Syria or America? Should we move her to a crib before or after we go to or come home from Jordan (the first time)? How about weaning (going to or coming home from Jordan, the second time)? And the list goes on.

Potty training: before or after Christmas? The answer looks like it's going to be: after!


Bridget said...

And by the way, Nancy, this isn't in response to your post. But you did remind me that I've been meaning to write this for a while.

Shannan said...

As a child development specialist and a mother who PT two boys - they only do it when ready. Heard the saying, "you can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink?" That exists here. Don't be so hard on yourself.

I found that when my boys were ready - PT happened in three days with no accidents whatsoever. If I tried when they weren't ready, it would be weeks and no progress.

Lark said...

Good decision. I think potty training was the worst thing I had to do with my toddler. Somehow it lasted probably a good 6 months on and off. She wanted to do it, then didn't, then Paul was born, then I tried to force it, then didn't. Finally she wanted to do it on her own (for the second time) and it stuck and we never looked back. It was also like a few days is all. Anyway, I'm not sure this makes sense, sorry. Just know you're doing the right thing!

Crissy Bear said...

Bridget I thought potty training in Jordan in the summer was the best. Other peoples carpet that you don't have to feel guilty about and shorts that come off easily. I would definitely avoid during Christmas time :)

marquita chiquita said...

hi, this is just another of Nancy's friends that likes to read your blog. But I had to wait to really buckle down with potty training until after we moved to Korea (and settled down for a bit). But my daughter learned so fast cause she was ready for it! You know your baby the best!

Good luck with the potty training after Christmas!

Briana said...

I'm with you! My son just turned two in September as well. I've already potty-trained 4 boys and it's best to do it when they are ready. You'll know when it's time.

Mikael said...

I totally understand about the potty training and moving it around events. My goal is to get makenzie potty trained BEFORE the next kid arrives... that means before she is 2. we will see how it all works out. oh, and also moving her to a toddler bed.


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