Tuesday, March 31, 2009

On bathroom surprises and red-headed babies

At night, when the girls are asleep, it's like I could almost forget they exist. I say "almost," because then I walk into the bathroom and find this on the counter:

Yes, that is a stuffed pink pony shoved into the front seat of a toy airplane. Miriam added the butterfly stickers all by herself. Just another step in her plan to beautify the world.


In other news, since when is red hair on a baby girl an invitation for any and all strangers to comment on it? I can't quite figure out why everyone at the grocery store feels compelled to ask me if she's got a temper to match her hair, or if I think it will stay red as she grows up, or who in my family has red hair. I'm not trying to be ornery here - I always answer their questions to the best of my ability (no, yes, and no one on either side, at least not recently), but I'm honestly curious why they're so, well, curious.

Anyone out there with red hair or red-headed children, please share your wisdom with me. I never expected to have a red-haired baby so now that she's here, I could use some tips on how to be a proper member of the club.

As for that fiery temper that Magdalena doesn't seem to have, maybe it just manifests itself in the form of doing baby pushups. Check her out!

20 comments:

Aimee said...

It seems everywhere I turn there are more red-headed babies around. I felt like I just read a study that said red-heads were disappearing, well in my view they seem to be making a reappearance. Jameson has auburn-y hair which shows up fire-red in pictures and I have gotten comments on his hair from the beginning, granted it stuck straight up.

What bothers me is that people want to pet him. Yes, you read that correctly, they want to caress my son's hair. I always had the urge to pull him away, "please don't touch my baby with your (possibly) grubby hands." I haven't gotten the temper question, but Jameson is a fairly mellow kid aside from the occasional "off-day." When I get sick of answering questions, I breathe and see who is asking them (its usually an older person on public transportation) and I smile and keep answering while they make googly faces at my bub. I figure life can get lonely as one gets older, if a baby will make their day a bit happier than who am I to take that away. For the other, just nosy person, I answer politely and turn to look out the window (public transportation again) or pretend to be looking for something in my purse. I never thought I would have a red-head either.

Kat Clark said...

That is so weird. I hate random advice givers or know-it-all people in the grocery store anyway. Why do they need to know your families hair history?! I always get questions about Jack having blonde hair and blue eyes and where that could have come from and bla, bla. Good for you that you are kind and answer their questions. I can't help but get a little annoyed sometimes.

Liz Johnson said...

That red-head thing is really weird. Although I guess my mom used to get questions about whether she was worried about having blonde girls, because apparently society would assume that we were imbeciles or something. I dunno. That doesn't make any sense. You should start coming up with something really weird, like "no, there's none in our families, but the mailman has red hair."

Sarah Rose Evans said...

Aurora has red hair, but I've never gotten the temper question-- although people constantly seem to feel compelled to talk to me about her, which I feel is even more awkward than when they did it about Demitri. Should I explain my relationship to her, or just smile and nod? It just seems kind of rude to reply, "Yes, she's beautiful, but she's not actually my kid. Don't worry, I'll pass along your compliments." Anyway. I just wanted to throw it out there, and tell you that I'm with you on meanlingless chit-chat in public with strangers.

sarah said...

haha! i like liz's suggestion. the backseat car pic is cute! and i love her red hair!

sarah said...

and the baby push ups are awesome!

Sharalea said...

Our 'red head' comments started minutes after Jackson was born: "you've got a red-head!" (first words from dr's mouth upon his arrival).

I get comments DAILY... "oh what a cute red head" (to which I thank them politely), "oh! it's a red headed girl!" (to which I either smile and nod or quietly correct them), "where did the red hair come from?" (i explain that it is a gene that both parents have to have to create a red headed baby...and that my husband's brother has red hair), "oh, is that red hair?" (this one almost makes me laugh. i mean, should I respond with "no"??), and also the various negative red head comments like "oh, maybe it will get darker as he gets older" and the always-strange personality statements "he'll be stubborn with that red hair, you know..."---riiiight.

I have blogged many a post on the red head baby phenomenon.

I suppose that red headed babies get the extra attention because red hair is such a rarity (in general). I am still not used to it, sometimes I think the extra attention is fun and other times I am offended/annoyed/bugged.

Welcome to the club! ;)

Emily said...

YES! Those are the same exact question that I get about Malia, even in the same order. I just have different answers than you do. My answers are yes, not sure, and Aarons mom has red hair. Thats really funny. Glad to hear its not just us that stand out!

Susanne said...

Living in the South, I am used to conversations with strangers so stuff like this doesn't bother me in the least. To me, it's just people being friendly (most of the time) in a world of people wanting to keep to themselves and not reach out to others. I understand how it can get annoying if the people are rude or the questions too strange or too often, but I find it rather fun interacting with others.

Anyway, I love Magdalena's push up! Awesome!

Kacee said...

Bridget,
I am not sure if you remember me or not. (Kacee Gardner) I used to live in Beaverton, OR. I was in your ward. Your father and Daniel were our home teachers. I just recently found Julee Loader a couples months ago. I have been one of your secret readers for some time. I had to come out from hiding to reply to your post.

I have had red hair since birth and still do to this day. People have always made comments and touch it, even to this day. I would not change it for the world. People always ask me if it is natural.

People tend to think that people with red hair have a temper. People also think red heads are impossible to work with because of our attitudes. I have known a few red heads that have tempers. I am a mellow person for the most part. I do have that side of me but I try and keep "her" (the red headed side) tucked away deep inside. I have seen more of my red headed side come out as an adult. I tend to warn people that "she" is out.

I am not sure if this helps or hinders your views. Good luck and know in the back of your mind that the questions will never stop about the red hair epidemic.

Jeanerbee said...

I LOVE that pushup picture! Wow! No input on the red hair, though I get a lot of similar reactions/comments/input/questions from people about my kids' blonde hair. "Oh, where does he GET that blonde hair??" "Were YOU that blonde as a kid?" As if I stole him from somehwere....

I think redheads are less common? So maybe people just feel blessed to have glimpsed her! =) I guess the same may be true for "tow-heads."

Natchel said...

My sister is a red head. I'm blonde-ish, my mom is blonde and my dad has black hair. I think the reason she gets so much attention about it is because we all looks so funny together, like none of us really belong to each other! She's an anomaly. And I know this isn't true for every redhead but she has the stereotypical personality to match!

Nate has red headed nieces and nephews and when we go to Rocky Point together, people stop and stare at them and try to touch their hair. I'm thinking red hair is a much more odd thing in Mexico than it is here.. :) I've never had people come up and try to touch my mousy blonde hair. That's just not something people are drawn to unfortunately.

But the way things are looking, Gabe has some red hair coming in... I personally would love that. I've always been jealous of my sister's hair so if my child could be blessed with what I was not, I could live vicariously through him!

P.S. Love the push up picture! She's going to be a body builder!

Mikael said...

All my kids come out red heads! And I am talkin FIRE RED! All the nurses have to come look because we are so blonde. I had no clue where it came from, and truthfully was a bit mad they had red hair and not our blonde. But it goes away for all 3 of them and they all turn platinum blonde!
Who knows if it will come back later in life... I am kinda hoping NOT! I like blonde better. But if it did, I would find a way to think it is cute (because it was cute when they were babies)
As for your little one, she is ADORABLE! And girls are better red heads than boys. So if she keeps it, she will be beautiful!!!! I love your girls, they are so darling.

Jerry said...

We get comments constantly on Jonah's red hair, but it doesn't really bother me. Especially here in the South, people are way more interactive. Almost every old person will say something, or smile. I just try to think of them as grandma's and grandpa's, and take all comments as compliments.

Suzanne Bubnash said...

My Mom & 3 of her children were all dark, and then voila, my youngest sister was born very blond w/ blue eyes--she's still blond at age 48. My Mom nearly went cuckoo w/ everyone asking where the blondie came from. Dad was the guilty party of course, as he was blond/ blue. Since he was working & usually not present I guess we can excuse the strangers asking personal questions.

Lindsay said...

Ok, so I know very little about red hair, and have no thoughts for you. I do however have to comment on the push up picture. That is the cutest/funniest thing I have ever seen!!! You should seriously submit it for a photo contest of some sort. Or maybe the Army would pay you for the rights to it, and they could use it for an advertisement. I love it!!!

Britney said...

If I were to run into you at the grocery store, I'd only comment on how big and beautiful your girls' eyes are. They are both GORGEOUS.

EmmySue said...

My dad, and most my siblings have red hair. The questions never end and people never seem to become more smart or less rude. My sisters say they hate their red hair... but I think it is beautiful... people pay lots of money to attempt red hair, only to miss tragically.

Anonymous said...

My son has red and I constantly get questions about its orign at the grocery store. I am thinking about dying my light brown hair red just to eliminate the need to ask....

Anonymous said...

people can be incredibly rude to redheads. as your child grows up, be sure to tell him often, that people are rude because they are jealous or because they fear the unique. usually jealous. it takes many of us a long time to realize what all the fuss is about, and that we aren't freaky, but rather awesome. it is beautiful. people will not stop wanting to touch it, ask questions, or just be complete jerks about it. watch out for grade school.

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