Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Одна

I still can't quite believe it: I'm in a hotel room, by myself, for two whole days. It's a Bridgetcation!

For a long time now, I've been feeling like I'm barely keeping my head above water when it comes to sanity at home. My patience/love/empathy/selflessness/wipingtinybums/emptyingthedishwashereveryday/etc. reserves were running dry. Aside from the time I spent in class, I hardly had two hours of kid-free waking hours to rub together. Combine that with Jeremy's most stressful semester yet + a couple of weeks here and there when he was out of town (which really, really gets to me) and you had one tired Bridget who was starting to feel like an empty shell of herself.

Because motherhood is exhausting, did you know?

Jeremy talked about sending me to a hotel by myself to recuperate for a couple of days and this week, everything clicked into place and it became a reality. When I checked in yesterday afternoon, it took me a good couple of hours to calm myself and get down to the business of doing NOTHING. Or whatever I wanted, anyway.

I channel-surfed the MBC stations (2, 4, Action, and Max), tuning into Oprah for a few minutes for old times' sake (old times = every period of my life I've spent in the Middle East, because Oprah is good television here). I contemplated ordering in room service for dinner, and then decided against it because it runs counter to everything my parents ever taught me. I finished reading one book and then started another one. I went to bed late with no expectation of having to wake up early in the morning. Truly, that is one of life's great pleasures.

Today, I slept in and then went downstairs to the lobby to eat a huge breakfast at a leisurely pace. I got a free massage. I walked out on the beach. I took a nap. I read some more. I've got The Age of Innocence and all eight hours of Bleak House ready to go if I want to watch them.

I still have 18 hours before my Bridgetcation ends, and I'm already feeling mostly recharged. This is a very good thing.

The funny thing is that I feel foolish explaining this to anyone aside from Jeremy, who of course understands me perfectly. But the way I see it, everybody has their way to detox and recharge. Some women have scheduled, frequent, short breaks from life. Some women meet up with girlfriends for fun, out-of-town trips. Some women just want to be by themselves for a while. That last one is the group I belong to, but if you think it's weird, I understand.

So, is staying at a hotel by yourself for two days your idea of a personal hell, or do you totally get what I'm talking about?

24 comments:

Jen said...

I love it.

Generally-speaking, mothers (especially Mormon mothers) are woefully deficient in self-care.

I think your Bridgetcation is genius, and I'm a little bit jealous. (My jencation is in the works, though. But I wish it were in the UAE!)

AmandaStretch said...

I totally get it. I live alone, after all. I'll probably have to schedule Amanda-cations when the time comes.

Kathy Haynie said...

This is genius. I wish I'd thought of it when my kids were small. Actually I did, but instead of checking into a hotel, I'd wrangle a girlfriend and we'd go backpacking overnight. (Difficult to do in UAE.) One of the happiest weeks of my life was the week I spent backpacking 50 miles by myself. But that was after the kids were grown and gone. Have fun on the Bridgetcation! No explanations needed.

Kathy Haynie said...

PS - What does the title of your post translate to in English?

Haha - I tried googling it, but I got a bunch of hits in that language (Arabic?) and your post.

Bridget said...

Одна means "alone" in Russian. Better yet, it's the feminine form of the adjective. So it means me, right now. :)

Lilianne said...

I totally get it. Congrats on recharging and for finishing out a school year with your sanity!! And yes, motherhood is hard!!

Tia said...

I totally understand it, but I could never do it. I don't go very many places by myself because it feels awkward. (i.e. a restaurant, a movie, a hotel.) I go crazy when Manuel isn't home during the night. I prefer a girl's night out.

Tony F said...

I think that sounds beyond awesome. Have a great time!

Jeremy Palmer said...

All hail the Momcation. One of our friends (no kids) nearly stopped breathing when she heard about Bridget's plans. She wondered if Bridget needed a sputnik (to continue with the Russian theme). Ha ha ha. Another friend and mother with 5 children totally understands and does similar stuff. Another friend and mother of 5 children didn't understand initially why Bridget would want to do this. It had obviously never crossed her mind. To each her own.

For the record, I was agreeable to more than 2 nights away...

Emily said...

I think I should have Aaron read this post!

Very interesting thought. I have never even considered leaving to be by myself. Hmmm...

I think what I'd most enjoy is a Aaremilycation. Yeah, I don't think he would be too happy about me leaving, and I'd love to have him along anyway.

Oh, by the way, I had a dream about you guys last night! I'll have to email you about it. It was so fun to see you guys! Haha

Liz Johnson said...

YES!!!! I totally get this!! Even as an excessively social person, if my reserves get low enough, I just need to be by myself. ALONE. With no responsibilities. If my reserves are slightly more full, then it sounds fun to take a trip with my husband, no kids. And if I'm even less drained, it might sound fun to take a trip with my kids. But after law school, for example, all I wanted was a week BY MYSELF. With no cell phone, and no way to be reached for anything. And I could do whatever I wanted.

Did you ever see "Date Night?" It reminds me of a quote from that movie.

Tina Fey's character (Claire): "If anything, I fantasize sometimes about being alone. There are times when I just thought about, on my worst day, just you know, leaving our house and just going some place like checking into a hotel and just being in a quiet room by myself... just sitting in an air-conditioned room, sitting down, eating my lunch, with no one touching me, drinking a Diet Sprite, by myself. Look, I just wanna have one day that doesn't depend on how everybody else's day goes."

Katie said...

I totally get it! I really hope your enjoying your vacation for yourself and for all of us who wishes that it was us!

Bridget said...

Emily, a JeremyBridgetcation is way overdue! I am craving one of those, too.

Liz, this is sad, but that quote brought tears to my eyes.

elliespen said...

That sounds glorious. I may have to plan an elliecation one of these days.

Eevi said...

Ahhh, I am so jealous! I have told Troy that he should take the kids to Phoenix for a night so I could be at home all by myself for a day and night. In my mind, I thought then I could do all those things around the house that I never get a chance to do with two kids. Now I might just copy you and just relax!! What a great idea.

Suzanne Bubnash said...

R&R is a necessity for moms! Don't let anyone try to lay a guilt trip on you. I used to "run away" from home occasionally. For me the pot of gold was a family history research trip all by myself, or a trip to Baba's where she and Aunt Mary insisted that I do nothing.

Some people thought it was weird or scary that I would want to be alone in a hotel. A few even asked if I wanted someone to go along (no!).

Crys said...

While the alone I don't get (can't sleep alone ;) r&r I totally get!!!! Enjoy your vacation...you totally deserve it!

Señora H-B said...

I'm not even a mother and I totally get your need for a solocation. I have been living with in-laws this summer and took a week to recharge my batteries all alone at my house. I desperately needed the time alone. I am an introvert. It's exhausting to be around people all of the time.

Susanne said...

Good for you! I'm not a mother, but the one evening I kept my (then 5 week old) nephew for several hours, I gained a huge appreciation for mothers (and fathers who actually do things for their kids.) I'm glad you are able to take some time for yourself.

robin said...

sounds like heaven. i was putting myself in your place as i read your description of bridgetcation...

and i LOVE the age of innocence. the book and the movie...

Anonymous said...

Great idea! I'll have to try to remember it once I have kids.

I'm very much an introvert, and most days, I feel worn out just from dealing with people at work. So, I really crave alone time when I come home.

Hannah

Sherwood family said...

Don't forget that you still have that all-expenses paid (except airfare) trip to Baku! We'll even throw in childcare for a JeremyBridgetcation. I can highly recommend that sort of thing (while writing to you from our hotel room that looks at the Blue Mosque on a BrandonAshleycation).

Sarah said...

I have done this and LOVE it. I will do it again when my nursing baby is old enough for me to be away. I like to go where nobody knows my name and I have zero responsibilites except to sleep & eat. I have so much more to give to my husband & 3 children when I recharge my introverted self with solitude.

Anna said...

I think this is a terrific idea. My only problem is-- how do you persuade yourself to go back?

Also, thanks so much for all the posting you've done about my play. It makes me feel like a superstar.

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