Wednesday, December 21, 2011

The greatest adventure

(Before reading this post, please note that I am currently on a grad school exemption from PregnancyWatch and adjust your conclusions accordingly.)

Is it totally weird that I am jealous of American women who give birth in foreign countries? Because I totally am. I've had a lot of great adventures in foreign countries, some of them even health- or hospital- or kid- or kid-in-hospital-related. But I've never had THE great adventure.

I feel so robbed that Miriam wasn't born in Syria. She was due in mid-September, and Jeremy's PhD program at the U of A started at the beginning of September, so it wasn't too hard to do the math and see that it wouldn't work to birth her in Damascus. Still, we thought through a few scenarios. None of them were possible, so we ended up just staying in Syria as long as possible and then moving to Arizona, where Miriam was born a month later. To this day, when people ask me where she was born, I have to think twice before answering, "Tucson." Miriam herself has told others that she was born in Syria. She also told me the other day that she is part Syrian. (Wishful thinking on her part to help her fit in more with the Arab kid crowd here, I think.)

And now the University of Sharjah just opened up their brand new hospital down the road, and it has a fabulous maternity ward (or so I've heard) and it seems like the majority of my friends are pregnant and I just get to thinking about what an adventure they're about to have. It's like a club that I don't belong to.

One more thing: I wonder sometimes if this strange jealousy I have is because I had such a terrible experience giving birth to Miriam in Tucson, and there will always, always be that question in my mind: how beautiful could it have been in Syria?

I guess I'll never know, and so the jealousy continues to eat away at me.


Jessie said...

Wait, neither of your kids were born abroad? I could have sworn you did a blog post a while ago on your foreign birth experience. Am I going crazy????

Crys said...

Does it make you feel any better that I'm extremely jealous of your last birthing experiences :) It seems like all my friends are pregnant as well. I had like ten friends announce they are due in June or July...must just be our age...the childbearing age!

Bridget said...

Jessie, I know, right? Maybe you're thinking of this post...?

Nancy said...

Rachel told me the other day that she wants our coming baby to be an American baby like she is. Miriam is an Egyptian baby in Rachel's mind and always will be.

Sometimes I wonder if I'll be nervous if I have to switch doctors a month before this baby is born...because we might have to. But I've had that "greatest" adventure and I think to myself, "Self, you can deal with ANY bedside manner after being strapped to a flipping table."

I loved having Miriam abroad and would definitely do it over again...but it was certainly stressful at the time. :)

Liz Johnson said...

I agree - that would be an amazing adventure. I would LOVE to have a kid in another country... and for that kid to have claim on the benefits of being born abroad. How freaking cool would that be?!

Lilianne said...

Time to get pregnant, Bridget!! :)

Lilianne said...

BTW - I am totally joking!

Mimi a Houston said...

Well, I'm pretty sure it will always be harder to have a baby abroad. I'm french, had my 3 children in the same clinic in the USA. The facility and care and doctor were excellent. But in the end, I never felt very confortable with the staff: there is so much culture around giving birth that it's hard not sharing the same culture in those moments, when you just feel exhausted... (Now, we are all very proud of the experience)- just my 2 cents ;)


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