Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Here's why I didn't blog yesterday

As of yesterday, my thesis is out of my hands and with my committee. So Jeremy and I decided to make yesterday our Anniversary (Observed). The actual day was on the 20th, but Jeremy - for the third year running - had a conference that day in Al Ain. Yesterday was the best we could do.

Now, don't get any wild ideas about us celebrating our 12th in style. While it was nice to get married in the middle of a semester back in the day, rather than a school break like most everyone else at the BY, that means that our anniversary always falls during, you know, the middle of the semester. Our plan for last night was to watch the newest episode of The Amazing Race while eating mint chocolate chip ice cream from Baskin Robbins. We aimed very low with our anniversary plans (don't worry, it was gladly done). And we still missed the mark.

Sterling cried and cried all the early evening. I finally took him up to the bath because it's the only thing that will sometimes calm him down. While I was bathing him, I told the girls to get ready for bed. Jeremy got caught up in finishing up some gardening outside, and by the time I was finished getting Sterling all clean, dried, and jammied, the girls were still running somewhat amok and Jeremy was elbow-deep in dirt outside. So I had a screaming baby and two girls who weren't ready for bed and no one had prepared the show on the computer, which takes time because VPN/finicky website. Not really conducive to the mood of celebration.

Finally everyone got settled down. We got the show queued up and got our ice cream ready to eat. But in all the earlier jostling trying to get Sterling rocked into calmness, the wireless router had fallen off its perch. Now the show kept stopping and starting as the internet came in and out. Instead of kicking back and watching an episode while eating ice cream, we sat in peevish silence trying to troubleshoot the internet as our ice cream melted into puddles in our mugs.

In the end, the ice cream got eaten, the show got watched, and Sterling went to sleep. It wasn't really the anniversary we deserved, but it's the one we get right now. And I didn't feel like blogging afterward.


Crys said...

Oh Bridget! That almost brought tears to my eyes. Peevish silence, absolutely perfect! Every married couple knows exactly what you are talking about. You set the expectation at the perfect place for middle of semester brand new baby and life still got in the way. Makes you want to cry and laugh at the same time. Sorry girl :(. We got married April 26th, which while the perfect time at BYU meant that the following eight years dr j was taking or giving finals on our anniversary. I was so glad to get away from academia. Of course the next four years he has no control of his schedule so we just try to go to dinner one day in April. Doesn't matter what day or where we go as long as I don't have to do dishes. I also make a very boring birthday cake on the day of. The kids love it, I mean who doesn't love blowing out candles saved from old cakes, and it helps me at least remember the day. Once pre birthday cake we were sitting on the couch at ten, turned and looked at each other and realized it was our anniversary and we'd both forgotten :-/. Maybe BYU can do some public awareness campaign. If you plan on going into academia get married over spring break or wait two weeks after the semester ends so you don't have to teach on your anniversary. Don't get married at Christmas or thanksgiving unless you really are ok with the next twenty five years your anniversary being lost in the crazy of getting ready for the holidays with kids ;-)

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Liz Johnson said...

Oh grody. My anniversaries are always a disappointment, no matter how low I set the bar (how's that for sad?!). Bah. I think I should get to have two days, just because one will definitely stink.

Sarah Familia said...

Oh Bridget, I'm sorry it went that way. IS there a good time to get married? Our anniversary is December 27th. Half the time we're in the midst of family celebrations or traveling, and the other half of the time, it's impossible to even find a babysitter. We've seriously considered celebrating the day we met (sometime mid-June) instead.

Suzanne Bubnash said...

Next year will be better!

A couple of the other commenters mentioned a marriage date that conflicts with holidays or other events. We have that too--December 19. There were plenty of years we celebrated our anniversary and a half--in June. Ours are always low-key anyway, but it's nice to celebrate when you can enjoy it and not feel like it's just one more thing squished in.

Jen said...


I think we're collecting enough data points here to start supporting a theory that *meh* anniversary celebrations are the rule, rather than the exception.

If it makes you feel better, I had a baby 3 days before my birthday this year....and to spare everyone the details, let's suffice it to say that I ate my cake laying down because I was unable to comfortably sit upright for the celebration. =)

Kathy Haynie said...

Because…THESIS!! Woo hooo! And happy anniversary, too. :)


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