Sunday, February 15, 2015

Reasons why saying goodbye is stupid and I hate it.

1. It's stupid.

2. And I hate it.

3. I will most likely see you again. This applies even to Goodbyes with a capital G. This is not Little House on the Big Woods, after all. We have airplanes.

4. Even if I don't see you again, I actually will, on facebook or whatever. Again, this is not Ma pining after a single letter from her family.

5. Crying is just the worst.

Can you tell my mom left yesterday, after a three-week visit? I think it ended up being quite a workcation for her, since she spent a lot of time helping me with kids. But we had a great time.

I hate saying goodbye so much that I actually turn off my emotions 12-24 hours before the final meeting. That way, I'm able to just say "bye, thanks, see you later!" with a smile on my face (possibly while tears threaten to stream down my cheeks). If I let myself get sucked into a big show of farewells, I can't function.

It is a fact (that I have perhaps mentioned before on this blog) that when my brother left on his TWO YEAR Mormon mission, I wanted to stay in the car rather than go in and say goodbye to him. But my family made me come.

So those of you who have ever had to say Goodbye to me, now you know why I got all squirrelly and dead-faced in the day or two before we parted. Jeremy makes fun of my goodbye avoidance behaviors, but it's how I deal.

In conclusion, saying goodbye is stupid and I hate it.


Hannah said...

Yeah, I agree with you on that. The lifestyle I've led for the past however many years has unfortunately given me lots of opportunities for grand farewells, and I'm really tired of it. I'm glad you had a nice visit with your mom, though, at least prior to the saying goodbye part of it.

Crys said...

I hate goodbyes but since I haven't learned how to shut it off I usually just get mean. It is the worst but it makes it easier to say goodbye if you or I am mad at eachother. It is stupid. Maybe some day I can grow up and stop being lame. I still think it is OK to be sad even if it isn't a forever goodbye. Just because she will come back and there is email and face time you still won't be able to see her in person any moment you want. That is a hard pill to swallow. When I'm having a hard day I still want my mom to help out. Even 11 years after moving away I still want her help. Darn my american upbringing. Perhaps a good boarding school education would have made me into less of a weekling ;)

Jen and Joe. said...

Ohhhhhhhh, man. I totally get it. I hate goodbyes so much that I bought a house near my mother. I paid a LOT of money as my goodbye-avoidance-strategy.

I'm so glad that your mom had such a nice visit, though!! Three weeks!! What a great chunk of time!!!! Moms are the greatest.

(And given the weather I'm experiencing right now, I'm about {THIS CLOSE} to hopping on a plane and showing up on your doorstep.)

Señora H-B said...

Add me to the list of those who hate goodbyes. I think my loved ones would prefer that I adopt your distancing strategy over my "being a royal witch" strategy.

Nancy said...

Ditto. Goodbyes are the worst. Even when you know they're not *goodbyes.*

I really don't know how people functioned before technology. Not even just Ma Ingalls, but, like, foreign service people back before teh internets—I've heard stories of letters once a month and other nonsense like that and my reaction is always, "I would die if I couldn't skype my mom every week. DIE."

But maybe I would surprise myself and survive if necessity called for it. Maybe.

I went through serious withdrawals that one time I lived in Russia and my mom had my email address wrong and hadn't figured out how to reply to emails yet. I was writing to her every week. She was starting a NEW email chain and typing my email wrong. For WEEKS I heard NOTHING from home and I was about ready to tear my hair out.

Anyway... :)

Liz Johnson said...

Hahahaha this is my favorite post! I especially love arguments #1 & #2. Nice and to the point. :)

Goodbyes are awful for me. I don't cry very often - EXCEPT when I'm saying goodbye (or watching a feel-good movie/tv show). I hate saying goodbye. Even if it's going to be a short time until I can see that person again, I really don't like it. I would like to have all of my people around me all of the time, and I'm a little annoyed that apparently the universe thinks that's too much to ask. :-/

Bridget said...

Crys, I think I have a touch of that, too! I could never put my finger on it, but maybe it's me trying to turn off my emotions and going too far in the grouchy direction. I was so super grouchy the day before she left.

Jen, you are welcome anytime.


Jen and Joe. said...

Ugh. Bridget. Remember that time that flights from BOS-->DXB were only $800? ($1000 if you fly Emirates....which you indicated on the "You might also like" links below this post.) I don't know if I've ever seen them that low!!

Suzanne Bubnash said...

Over the years I have learned to deal w/ goodbyes by just not thinking deeply about the separation. And by working hard to act more casual than I might feel.


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